December 12, 2005
The Adoption Option
So a while back, I promised you a post about adoption. Interestingly enough, the content has completely changed since that time. But first, some background.

As most of you probably know, I've been wanting to have another little hatchling (which I have already named, in the blogosphere at least, H2. Clever, don't you think?) for a while now. L and I have reached a compromise to start trying in the spring. He wants 4 years betwixt our children, I wanted 2, so we settled on 3.

Before we even got married, we talked about how cool it would be to adopt a child from another country. We then did nothing about it and really didn't even think about it anymore. When we went to Mexico last year and especially this year, I was struck by the conditions some of the children are living in. Some kids work in the middle of busy intersections doing circus tricks so people will throw change at them. I'm talking about kids that are maybe six years old. It is absolutely heart- wrenching.

Then a few weeks ago, I was over at Ellen's (who you need to go and vote for, by the way)and I clicked on the link to Bethany Christian Services. I started looking at international adoptions, and I was horrified to see how expensive they were. I mean, I knew adoption was expensive, but I didn't know it was THAT expensive. Even then, I really wasn't feeling like that had anything to do with me.

And then a few days ago, I read Hillary's post about orphans in China. If you haven't already, you NEED to read this. I thought to myself, we should get one of those kids. I have no desire to weigh 200 lbs, have terrible sciatica, or swell to size of Vermont again, so I wouldn't be "cheated" out of anything. And aside from gaining a precious child for our family, we would be a family for a precious child which would otherwise maybe not meet such a good ending.

I've spent a good part of the last few days surfing the internet, finding out all I could about international adoption. We talked to a guy at church yesterday who has two girls from China, and after the holidays we would like to get together with he and his wife to hear all about their experience (he says he would do it again in a second).

So woohoo, that is all well and good, but what about the money? L and I have committed to only having house debt, and the adoption will cost about $20,000. About half of it is taken care of by some tax incentives, but we would still need to come up with 8-10 thousand dollars. I don't know about you, but we don't have that much money stuck under the mattress. If we had been planning on this, we probably wouldn't have moved into a new house, or bought new furniture. Now I am looking back at all the money we spent on frivolous things and thinking, 'that would have been a third of the money we needed!'

I know that I can't blame myself for having furnished our house. For starters, we weren't even thinking about adopting at the time. And if it is God's plan for our family, I am sure He will open up a way for it happen. I trust Him, but I wish He would send me an itinerary of how my life is supposed to work out. I feel I could really do a better job of the whole thing that way. =)

So, dear readers, what do you think? Do you have any stories to tell or advice to give? Any ideas on how to make a bunch of money (legally, of course)? Am I just crazy to even be considering this? Also, if you have any spare prayers, I feel like we could use them right now.
Anonymous Sara said...
If money is the issue, I know that there are a lot of ways to get even more of that fee covered. Karen, at Bethany Christian's Fayetteville branch can really help. (She is one of Ellen's queens.) Also, I think we often forget how much naturally having a baby actually costs, though much is covered by insurance.

Blogger Ms. Mama said...
I think that adopting a child in need is one of the most selfless incredible things a person can do. I hope you can find a way to come up with the funds for this, I am sure there are ways that you can get more of it covered... Keep us posted!

Blogger Jill said...
I don't know if you have a preference for countries or not, but I have connections with a missionary family from Taiwan and apparently, it's much less expensive there? The lady works with a pregnancy crisis center and has worked with some adoption situations. If you're interested, I could try and get info.

Anonymous cousin sara said...
I want another baby slush..selfishly. But, adopting is a very selfless and kind act.

Blogger SlushTurtle said...
Jill, I don't think we are hung up on any certain country. Any info you could share would be appreciated.

Sars, I think they broke the mold after that baby.

Adopting isn't really selfless in our case... I mean, we want another baby, so we are getting something out of it too! =)

Blogger Erin said...
I don't have any advice or insight. But I just have to say that I think adopting is extremely worthwhile. IF I can ever conceive, I'd like to do what you're doing: have one of my own and adopt one. Otherwise, I'm adopting two. It pains my heart to think of all the unwanted and suffering children in this world.

Good for you for wanting to help! I hope it all works out. I'll be praying for you.

When I placed my oldest for adoption we worked through Bethany. They were really wonderful experience, and my son's adoptive parents used them again when they adopted their second son too.
Just some feedback.

Blogger KC said...
I've got a friend who just adopted from China. is their adoption story. They clearly recommend it, and I'm sure you'd get a reply if you emailed them. :)

Blogger SlushTurtle said...
Thanks KC- it was great to read about the journey they took!

Anonymous Anonymous said...
Slush - this is aunt daisy....i always wanted to have a home full of children and wished i could have adopted and gave many children the love i have in my heart....God will see you through this if it is His Will.....I love you and would gladly adopt a new niece or nephew into my heart,,,,

Blogger shay v. said...
I don't feel like this is crazy at all! I think God is leading you to the path that you were meant to be on and if this is meant to happen, it will! Trust in his Will and he will take care of you! I'm so glad to hear you talking about adoption. It's such a wonderful thing for those who choose it - so many children out there. I will be praying for you and wishing you the best in this process of decision making!!